DEALING WITH INSECURITY
Have you ever wanted to do something but become so insecure? Did you quit without even trying and then later regret the missed opportunity; which often leads to disappointment? Similarly, did you endeavor to do the work, gave it your all but failed which lead to more insecurity?
The worst case of insecurity can come from knowing you put in your very best but still end up failing. As such, your insecurity starts building up. For instance, you start doubting yourself, knowledge, smartness and capability to do great things. Then finally give in to the voice that says you are not good enough or can never achieve greatness.
Well, I am here to say you are not alone as all the outlined questions above apply to ME. In short, my answer to all the questions is YES. However, over the past months, I have seen positive changes in my perspective to failure.
Let us dive straight into what helped change my views and outlook on “FAILURE”:
- ADMIT YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH: The day I acknowledged my insecurities was the day I felt a shift. Insecurity can sometimes be viewed as a weakness that makes you a ‘failure’. But it is human to have a weakness or be insecure. So, for instance, I had to face the fact that my essay writing is poor/ not good enough. This often put me in a sensitive and sour mood. In fact, doing something as simple as tweeting or even pitching to brands put into perspective the problem/insecurity. At a point, there was no confidence in myself or work but that brings me to the next step changed it.
- EMBARRASSED TO READ: The growth and development that comes from reading cannot be explained. However, society has made reading not cool at all. Before now; I felt reading was beneath me especially having to read about ‘how to write essays’ in my adulthood. But in order to retain knowledge, you have to keep refreshing the brain. There are a whole lot of new ideas to digest. Not only will this help you stay current but it will also improve your choices of vocabulary.
The wealth of knowledge in just reading or just searching ‘how to write essays’ was not realized at that stage of my life. Although, I have improved immensely as reading became a ‘NORM’. To add up, reading was a gradual process of spending time on Sekinat Sanni Blog to learning from a book called “THE SECRET BY RHONDA BYRNE” to name a few.
- DON’T FORCE IT: Being insecure can stem from always trying but never getting the desired outcome. Notwithstanding, we don’t realize that being an expert at something comes from constant practice/attempts. For example, in the past, I use to focus too much on replicating the writing style of other bloggers in my write-ups which affected me a lot. It wasn’t until I stayed true to my uniqueness that I was able to get my style of writing which uplifted my personal strength.
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